10 Golden Rules




1. Be appreciative of your caregiver when it is due. Everyone needs job satisfaction and likes to be thanked.

2. Be caring of the relationship with your caregiver. Many parents experience jealous and guilt feelings about their child being cared for by someone else. It may appear the caregiver is privileged to look after your child, but it is NEVER easy to look after someone else’s child. Be aware of the important service your caregiver is providing to the community. How would you manage without her?

3. Be responsible with your caregiver. Arrive on time and pay on time. Your caregiver is a working person, has bills to pay and other commitments in her life.

4. Be supportive of your caregiver. Tell her when you plan to change your child’s routines. Every child has periods when all does not run smoothly and this is not necessarily your caregiver’s fault. If you discuss problems as they arise, perhaps your caregiver’s experience or ideas can be of assistance.

5. Be honest with yourself and your caregiver. If there are areas in which you differ (i.e., toilet training, feeding, etc.), try to enlist your caregiver’s support rather than handling the  situation negatively and complaining about trivial details while skirting the main issue.

6. Be tactful. Confrontation is not the only way to handle a situation. It is not conducive to good future relations to criticize the person on whom you rely for child care.

7. Be definite. If you really have an unresolved problem after discussion and you or your child are unhappy, then CHANGE CAREGIVERS. Your your child and the caregiver will probably be happier for it.

8. Be gracious when you are informed your caregiver is ill and unable to provide care. It may be most inconvenient, but you too are sometimes ill and would appreciate understanding , words. .

9. Be considerate of the well-being of your caregiver and the other children in her care. You might not appreciate it if you thought another parent was knowingly introducing infection into your caregiver’s home. This is a time to take a day off or find alternate care and keep your child at home. Infection spread to your caregiver or to other children may result in you being without caregiving services for more than a day. Arrange alternate care for a sick child.

10. No caregiver should be expected to provide for your child things other than those that you have agreed upon in advance. Be generous in providing all that your child requires while at your caregiver’s home.


Compliment of The Ontario Early Years Centre – Leeds and Grenville and F. Reekie, Home Caregiver